As we all know, losing weight is one of the most difficult journeys to embark on. There are so many things that go into planning this journey, making it difficult to keep up. What diet to choose, which foods to eat, how many calories to consume, the fear of loose skin, stereotypes, weight plateaus, fitting it into a budget, will I succeed? Most often, these are the things that hinder us from even taking the leap, in fear that we will drop the ball. Preparing yourself for your journey is the very first step!
I'm not talking about getting a gym membership, purchasing a grocery list of healthy foods, or getting a trainer. I’m talking about mentally preparing yourself for what is to come. Will you ever be fully ready? It's hard to say, but if I were to give my best guess, it would have to be, probably not. Fortunately, there's light at the end of the tunnel! I can provide you with all the tools you'll need to get ready!
Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
Yes, easier said than done for most, but if you aren’t willing to step out of the norm and try things you have never done before towards rebuilding your mental state, you will never be fully ready. Take some time, and I mean some serious YOU time and write a list of all the things you expect from yourself. Just as you are committed to your job, spouse, family and or friends, it’s time to give that same commitment to yourself. For years you have continued to put relationships, jobs, worldly possessions, and even food on a pedestal. Willing to spend a seemly unlimited amount of time and attention on everyone and everything else, not even realizing that you have placed yourself on the back burner, merely existing. Don’t overwhelm yourself with your list, still set your expectations high and know that in time each one of them will be met, believe it!
Identify Your Triggers
We all have things that cause us to fall short. It is very important to identify them and be 100% honest with yourself with who or what they are. Write them down and address them head on. Find out what they stem from and deal with that root of the issue. Whether it be family, friends and/or a particular situation in your life, be ready to eliminate if need be. You’ll thank me later!
Create Mental Stability
If you’re not willing to go within and take time each day to perform this tip, I guarantee it will make this journey much more difficult for you. This journey is more mental than it is anything else. Remember those expectations from tip 1? Read them out loud daily. This will create a mental shift, and will begin to change your subconscious thoughts into what you are truly wanting to project into your reality. Words are powerful! Do you remember a time when there was something that you really wanted to do, you had never done it before, but you at least wanted to give it a try? Then someone with good intentions, kept telling that you couldn't, until you believed it was true and finally gave up. Most of us has had similar experiences, and that's why it is so important to read your self expectations list daily. Reprogram what you believe to be true, into what you expect to happen!
Release and Rebuild
This part may be difficult but worth it! Release any and all negative energy as well as people from your life. These are nothing but blocks preventing you from being the very best version of you. Teardown those walls and rebuild a solid foundation. If you do not, the house you're rebuilding won’t stand a chance against a storm. Be patient and make sure that high quality stones are being laid, so that they have the strength to endure what is yet to come. You may take this part lightly, but I guarantee, if your foundation is weak, your house will not stand!
Create Happiness Right Now In The Moment
Weight loss provides you with physical health and even a boost in confidence, but if you cannot seem to find happiness right now, in this very moment, in some shape or form, it will continue to elude you while in the midst of your journey. Long term happiness is not discovered, it is created. It is brought into existence, something you design and produce. Yes, weight loss can inspire that creation, but if you rely on that solely it can also destroy it. Be in control and create happiness before the journey takes place. Take the time to discover for yourself what truly makes you happy, hold on to it no matter what, and allow that happiness to create your success.
Above all love yourself enough to realize that you deserve the very best. Realize that no journey is perfect, and you will have some bumps, but be patient with yourself. We crawl before we walk!
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It's important to understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with triggers. Triggers are built-in notification signals, letting us know that we have unresolved issues. Once triggers have been identified, you're ready to begin the healing process. With that being said, let's begin...What sets you off and sends you spiraling out of control? Those are just a few of your "triggers". Each time a trigger has been activated, a variety of emotions comes along for the ride. Now write a list of triggers that first come to mind, as many as you'd like, then next to each one the emotional experience. Your emotions are key and will better serve you, if you keep that in mind throughout the process.
Now that we have identified what triggers you, and the emotional experiences encountered once activation has occurred, let's get to the root. It's important to understand that your focus does not need to be placed on the issue itself, but on the emotional experience associated with it. Now go through your list and circle only the emotions.
This step is important and will definitely take some time to process. Any emotion that has a strong hold on us, possesses the ability to the trigger us to be, do, or say things out of character in our present reality. This occurs in the subconscious when a current experience is associated with a previous uneasy, fearful, painful, or negative experience coupled with the inability to properly express it. Once you have the emotions circled, I want you to go one by one and trace them back to the first time you felt that emotion, what and/or who caused it, and the outcome.
We can't change the past, but we can definitely create a new beginning. We have our root, now let's heal it by creating a sense of peace around that past outcomes. We do this by forgiving and releasing any emotional attachments. This will require deep meditation, prayer and visualization. Focus on being released and healed, loving reassure yourself that it is ok to move forward and heal.
Now let's rewrite YOUR story! You are the product of your own creations! Creating the experiences that you desire is something that you have the innate ability to do right at moment. Whether you realize it or not, you have been doing it all of your life. For example, your subconscious takes one of your pleasant experiences, then develops a thought process that is relatable and familiar, thereby creating more of the same. Last step, now In story form, let's create a new experience by writing down how you desire/prefer to feel, should you encounter any emotions that you struggled with once before. The key is reprograming, remember there has been years of consistent negative responses to these emotions, so it's going to require that you simply believe while experiencing how good it feels having accomplished it successfully! Remember to listen to and/or read your new story repeatedly, expecting new experiences that gives you proof of your new response.
It's very important to be patient with yourself during the entire process. Always remember that the effort that you put forth...will create the results that YOU desire!